From Hairdressers to Hearts: Why breaking up is hard to do

by venusrising

You’ve seen your hair dresser for years -- yet each time you go you feel like you really don’t get what you want, but return time after time anyway. Maybe you are involved in a ‘love affair’ and you don’t feel like your needs are met, but you stick it out. So what gives? As logical human beings why do we resist the obvious even when we know in our hearts change is in our best interest? Do we often feel like the emotional and time investment may be too great to lose, or fear that the “something better” does not exist and if it does, it is at a high emotional and/or physical cost?
Building relationships of any type requires a great deal of time and energy. Many people just may feel like the journey to a more fulfilling experience may not prove fruitful -- since they have no proof that it can, or will, be any better. With all the stressors in life, some may feel like moving forward just is not worth it -- at the moment. Time, being the most precious commodity is like any economic event: The price we will pay is in direct correlation with the benefit we receive from the action. That means, that if we don’t mind going home to a stagnant romance because we are happy to invest our time elsewhere, the propensity for change is that much less. However, if our hair dresser shaved our head bald, we sure as hell would find it valuable to go elsewhere.
Are you ready for a change? The choice really is up to you, but it’s certainly something worth thinking about.